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Identity & Transformation: Who You Become When Life Breaks You Open

Understand identity transformation, why it feels destabilizing, and how real change happens when your old self no longer fits. For people in life transition.
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Identity Transformation

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There comes a moment when the life you built stops feeling like the life you’re meant to live. Nothing is wrong on paper, yet something in you refuses to keep playing the same role.People mistake this for burnout or restlessness. It’s neither. It’s the shelf life of an old self expiring.Transformation isn’t about adding more. It’s about releasing what no longer fits, staying in the liminal space long enough to let something truer emerge.
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Own your story – stop apologising for your life

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A friend apologised for a three-year career gap spent caring for her mother. What struck me wasn't the gap. It was that she was treating lived experience like a liability. Here's what happens when you stop hiding your whole story—and what actually changes when you own it all.
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You Don’t Get One Life. You Get Two.

It starts as restlessness. A numbness. The slow recognition that you've spent decades executing someone else's plan. By 40 or 45, something shifts. And for the first time in your adult life, you're finally asking, "Whose life is this anyway?"You don't get one life. You get two. The first was written before you arrived. But your second life? That one's yours to decide.
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You have everything. So why do you feel empty despite success?

You’ve achieved more than you once dreamed of, but the feeling of emptiness still lingers. Success was supposed to feel fulfilling, yet something’s missing. This piece explores why external achievements can’t fill internal voids and what it really means to feel alive again.
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You’re everything and nothing: on fluidity, identity, and freedom

You can feel hurt without making it mean something about who you are. You can be the mother and not only the mother. You can hold contradictions without choosing sides. You can change your mind without an identity crisis. Most people think self-love means accepting yourself exactly as you are. But what if real self-love is fluidity—loving yourself enough to change, contradict, become someone you weren't yesterday? The more attached you are to being someone in particular, the less alive you become. This is about the freedom that comes not from finding yourself, but from loosening your grip on needing to be anyone at all.
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The Discovery Paradox – why seeing yourself changes everything

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I see clients "changing" completely as they become more and more self-aware. As they begin to understand who they are underneath all the conditioning, recognising their patterns and getting an idea of their ''why", they start thinking, behaving and even looking different.This got me thinking, when we become self-aware, do we call that change or reality? Nothing fundamental about us has shifted, or has it?What aspect of yourself are you still trying to change instead of understand?