Tag Archive for: self awareness

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Relationships, Boundaries & Power Dynamics: Why Connection So Often Costs You Yourself

Understand how power dynamics, boundaries, and unconscious patterns shape relationships. Learn why connection often leads to self-abandonment—and how to change it without blame or performance.
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Identity & Transformation: Who You Become When Life Breaks You Open

Understand identity transformation, why it feels destabilizing, and how real change happens when your old self no longer fits. For people in life transition.
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How Defensiveness Destroys Relationships

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Defensiveness can quietly destroy even the strongest relationships. It turns small misunderstandings into emotional threats and pushes partners apart long before either person realises what’s happening.This piece explores why defensiveness shows up, how it becomes a repeating relationship pattern, and why love alone can’t fix it—unless the person caught in the cycle is willing to look inward.
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Own your story – stop apologising for your life

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A friend apologised for a three-year career gap spent caring for her mother. What struck me wasn't the gap. It was that she was treating lived experience like a liability. Here's what happens when you stop hiding your whole story—and what actually changes when you own it all.
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Victim or Warrior – you have a choice

Blame is a relief. It explains everything and demands nothing from you. But you're not off the hook. You're just not looking at what's yours to handle. Here's the paradox that keeps people stuck—and how to break it.
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The invisible power dynamics that shape every relationship

Most power dynamics don’t start with words — they start with energy. Before a single sentence is spoken, an invisible negotiation unfolds through tone, posture, silence, and self-belief. This piece explores how unseen dynamics shape connection, confidence, and the way we take up space — and how becoming aware of them can quietly transform the way you lead, love, and live.
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You’re everything and nothing: on fluidity, identity, and freedom

You can feel hurt without making it mean something about who you are. You can be the mother and not only the mother. You can hold contradictions without choosing sides. You can change your mind without an identity crisis. Most people think self-love means accepting yourself exactly as you are. But what if real self-love is fluidity—loving yourself enough to change, contradict, become someone you weren't yesterday? The more attached you are to being someone in particular, the less alive you become. This is about the freedom that comes not from finding yourself, but from loosening your grip on needing to be anyone at all.
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You Don’t Know Your Own Impact

You're changing people's lives in ways you'll never see. The casual comment, the small gesture, the moment you were just being yourself - they're still carrying it. Here's why you don't know your own impact, and why that matters.
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The Loneliness of Growth

Personal growth is one of the best investments you can make in yourself. I believe this completely - it's why I do the work I do. There's a cost, though. Loneliness. You're working on yourself and evolving but most people around you aren't. And suddenly you realise that you're fluent in a language no one else in your world speaks. I'm not saying this to scare you away,  I'm telling you so you know you're not broken when it happens. The person you become through this process is a person who can handle a life that the old you never could.
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Your body’s most advanced AI: Your Intuition

I have a scientific brain. Logical. Data-driven. Show me the evidence, and I'll consider it. For years, this served me well, but it also meant that I didn't trust my own intuition. Over the years, I had been noticing my intuition was right. A lot. Was it just coincidence? So I did what any researcher would do—research.And what I found was that intuition WAS science. Happening faster than my conscious mind could track.