You used to have opinions about restaurants. A favorite coffee order. Now you can't remember the last time you chose anything. This is erosion—quiet, incremental, almost invisible. The slow theft of everything that made you, you. And what you're losing isn't just restaurant choices. It's the promotion you didn't apply for. The friendships that died. The years spent managing someone else's comfort while yours disappeared. This isn't love. Here's what accommodation is actually costing you.