Tag Archive for: relationship patterns

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Relationships, Boundaries & Power Dynamics: Why Connection So Often Costs You Yourself

Understand how power dynamics, boundaries, and unconscious patterns shape relationships. Learn why connection often leads to self-abandonment—and how to change it without blame or performance.
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When Loneliness Makes You Ignore Yourself

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You feel the pull of loneliness like gravity. So you negotiate with reality because the alternative- being alone again- feels unbearable. So you stay. Not because you want him. Because you don't want that.The cost isn't just this relationship. It's learning not to trust yourself anywhere. Because staying with someone who doesn't respect you isn't avoiding loneliness. It's just being lonely with company.
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Emotional Triggers – Who’s responsible

We don’t trigger people. People get triggered. Being triggered explains a reaction; it doesn’t excuse it. You don’t get to scream at someone making harmless conversation and then walk away feeling righteous because your nervous system lit up. The trigger is yours. The reaction is yours. And the repair is yours.
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How Defensiveness Destroys Relationships

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Defensiveness can quietly destroy even the strongest relationships. It turns small misunderstandings into emotional threats and pushes partners apart long before either person realises what’s happening.This piece explores why defensiveness shows up, how it becomes a repeating relationship pattern, and why love alone can’t fix it—unless the person caught in the cycle is willing to look inward.
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Victim or Warrior – you have a choice

Blame is a relief. It explains everything and demands nothing from you. But you're not off the hook. You're just not looking at what's yours to handle. Here's the paradox that keeps people stuck—and how to break it.
Woman's silhouette dissolving into clouds - visual metaphor for losing yourself in relationships through self-erasure and accommodation

Stop Calling It Love

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You used to have opinions about restaurants. A favorite coffee order. Now you can't remember the last time you chose anything. This is erosion—quiet, incremental, almost invisible. The slow theft of everything that made you, you. And what you're losing isn't just restaurant choices. It's the promotion you didn't apply for. The friendships that died. The years spent managing someone else's comfort while yours disappeared. This isn't love. Here's what accommodation is actually costing you.
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The invisible power dynamics that shape every relationship

Most power dynamics don’t start with words — they start with energy. Before a single sentence is spoken, an invisible negotiation unfolds through tone, posture, silence, and self-belief. This piece explores how unseen dynamics shape connection, confidence, and the way we take up space — and how becoming aware of them can quietly transform the way you lead, love, and live.
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You Don’t Know Your Own Impact

You're changing people's lives in ways you'll never see. The casual comment, the small gesture, the moment you were just being yourself - they're still carrying it. Here's why you don't know your own impact, and why that matters.
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The Invisible Chains – Control in Relationships

Control in relationships isn’t always loud or obvious. Often, it hides behind care, logic, or love, making it harder to spot. Learn how subtle control can shape your connection and how to break free from its invisible chains.
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Why the smartest people make the dumbest relationship choices

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You're brilliant at solving complex problems at work. Or maybe you can read people's emotions like an open book. But what about your own love life? You find yourself staying with someone who makes you feel small, giving endless chances to people who don't deserve them, explaining exactly why a relationship is toxic while being unable to leave it.