Tag Archive for: self-abandonment

empty bench by the sea depicting loneliness

When Loneliness Makes You Ignore Yourself

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You feel the pull of loneliness like gravity. So you negotiate with reality because the alternative- being alone again- feels unbearable. So you stay. Not because you want him. Because you don't want that.The cost isn't just this relationship. It's learning not to trust yourself anywhere. Because staying with someone who doesn't respect you isn't avoiding loneliness. It's just being lonely with company.
Woman walking confidently - own your story without apologizing

Own your story – stop apologising for your life

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A friend apologised for a three-year career gap spent caring for her mother. What struck me wasn't the gap. It was that she was treating lived experience like a liability. Here's what happens when you stop hiding your whole story—and what actually changes when you own it all.
Woman's silhouette dissolving into clouds - visual metaphor for losing yourself in relationships through self-erasure and accommodation

Stop Calling It Love

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You used to have opinions about restaurants. A favorite coffee order. Now you can't remember the last time you chose anything. This is erosion—quiet, incremental, almost invisible. The slow theft of everything that made you, you. And what you're losing isn't just restaurant choices. It's the promotion you didn't apply for. The friendships that died. The years spent managing someone else's comfort while yours disappeared. This isn't love. Here's what accommodation is actually costing you.
exhausted and burnt out always fine

The quiet violence of being the one who’s always fine

There's a strange loneliness that comes with being the person everyone leans on. It's the loneliness of not being seen past your capability to who you actually are.The quiet violence of always being fine is that it makes you invisible to yourself. But the quiet revolution is remembering that you exist too. That you matter too. That your needs are valid and your feelings are real and your well-being is worth protecting.You've spent so long being the person everyone can count on. Now it's time to be someone you can count on too.
warrior- speaking up for yourself

From Wallflower to Warrior – Speaking up for yourself

People mistake your silence for weakness. And when they think you're weak, they start treating you like you are. I'd become everyone's emotional dumping ground. Their personal advice recipient. Their project to fix. All because I was quiet.That's when something clicked: Their script wasn't my script.